If you were a caregiver for your spouse, as I was, you probably arrived at his death exhausted and with your own health in jeopardy. Many of the widows I work with have cared for their spouse for years and done things only trained nurses in a hospital did even 20 years ago.

Our modern medical system is insane. But whether you cared for your spouse or they died in an accident, every aspect of your life is turned upside down now that you’re a widow. If you’re still caring for your children, as I was, you face the added intensity of helping them get through the death and find their new normal.

A widow is stretched like a rubber band and just like a rubber band that is stretched too thin, too many times, sometimes you break. Psychologists consider widowhood the single biggest life stressor because it affects so many aspects of your life. Learn more and heal faster with the Navigating Loss Program. Only $49 for the book and video series!

Each time you experience extreme stress your body floods with adrenaline and cortisol. This is how your body protects you when you meet a tiger in the woods or need to rescue your child when they run across a street in front of a car.

When we experience stress, our heart rate, respiration and blood pressure increase. Our muscles tense. Higher levels of free fatty acids and blood sugar are released to provide immediate energy to survive the perceived emergency. These physiological changes are what we commonly call the “fight or flight response.”

Cortisol and adrenaline are super chemicals and they enable you to do what needs to be done but they are not meant to be used on a regular basis. Each time you performed a Super Woman deed for your spouse, your body paid a price.

The Mayo Clinic’s website has this to say about stress and the activation of the chemical stress re-sponse. “The long-term activation of the stress response system—and the subsequent overexposure to cortisol and other stress hormones—can disrupt almost all of your body’s processes. This puts you at increased risk of numerous health problems, including:

Digestive Problems
Heart Disease
Sleep Problems
Weight Gain
Memory and Concentration Impairment

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms of prolonged stress, make an appointment with your doctor. Remember, now is the time to put your health first! You don’t want to be the second victim of your spouse’s death!

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